How to Find Balance in Life With Model and Health Activist Alexis Ren

09.04 / Fitness

In today's hyper-connected social landscape, figuring out who or what you want to be is made both easier in terms of the available knowledge out there online, and harder because of that very same reason. On one hand, we now all have access to the lives, lifestyles, and processes our peers and idols undergo, making us just a click away from learning a new skill, approach, or method for upping our lives. On the other hand, this over exposure, which is more often than not curated specifically to showcase only the best as opposed to the hardships and real-world struggles, will often lead to even more confusion, stress, and anxiety, especially when scrolling through hours' worth of beautiful people doing amazing things.

Amidst a seemingly endless plethora of people to follow, without truly knowing who's real and who's putting on a facade, there are a genuine few who portray a healthy and admirable lifestyle that we're happy to indulge in. And while we're now at a point where the phenomenon of filtering through only the crème de la crème of life for our social accounts is studied, most of us are now aware that it can lead to stress, anxiety, and often depression. The few real people–in both their beauty and their socially shared lifestyle–are the ones actually worth following.

These individuals who live the life you aspire for yourself, the ones that dominate your daily feed, are true in living how they say they are. When a post goes up with a selfie in spandex and a caption that's exuberating a healthy attitude, it's because they actually went to the gym that day. That perfectly displayed smorgasbord of overly healthy food did, in fact, turn to mush inside of their bellies, and when they open up about personal issues to help spread awareness--like having an eating disorder--it's because they actually have suffered through it themselves. This is very much the case with model, internet celebrity, and health activist Alexis Ren.

"I believe too much of one thing isn't particularly healthy. Creating balance is key, and don't take it too seriously."

During the recent REVOLVE launch event for her collaboration/Partnership with Karl and Jaynee Singer of Touché LA, which consisted of a new activewear line aptly titled REN Active, we sat down with the stunner to understand how to cut through all of the stress and BS in figuring out how to be a better person, which we found out was easier than you'd think. "It doesn't have to be this big leap in change, it's all about making small changes that attribute to bigger ones eventually. It's not about punishing yourself, it's about changing your path," Alexis told us when asked about the first big challenge of simply starting down a path of betterment.

Having been raised by a mother who knew the ins and outs of a healthy diet, eating the right food came naturally to the model. "My mother was a health nutritionist, so I give her all the credit," she says. But knowing good food from bad doesn't mean you're immune from social and psychological pressure. "It was a vicious cycle where when I did eat, I just felt worse, so I didn't want to eat, and ate less and less and less," Alexis told Cosmopolitan in a recent article about her health issues. But instead of keeping the struggle under the table, Alexis opened up on social media, which she's admitted has helped release a lot of that pressure.

Alexis now strives to maintain balance in her life. If there's one clear message from all of the exploration we undergo to better ourselves, it's that finding a balance in life, for whatever you may be trying to achieve, is the most important goal to have. Alexis couldn't agree more, "I believe too much of one thing isn't particularly healthy. Creating balance is key, and don't take it too seriously. Have fun, be you, express yourself in artistic ways." Whether it's how you want to lay out your IG feed, or struggling with debilitating issues, finding and maintaining that balance will get you there.

But in finding your way, you need to be curious. As the old adage goes, "it's the journey, not the destination." While Alexis may look amazing in the clothes she wears, that wasn't enough for the young talent. Learning how and why these clothes are made spurred the model to discover that for herself. "I wanted to know what it's like behind the scenes of the clothes I model. I wanted more tools under my tool belt for life and the fashion industry. I want a better grasp of things," she tells us on how REN Active came to be. That kind of attitude will inevitably lead you to living a better life. It may take longer for some but as long as you're curious in your pursuit of finding balance, you'll eventually get to the top.

Photos by: Christina Choi