Lessons From the Men Who Raised Us | Happy Father’s Day!

Author: Coco Marett
06.18 / Lifestyle

They say that "a father is a daughter's first love and a son's first hero." This Father's Day, the MISSBISH team took the time to celebrate the men who raised us - whose strength, generosity and lovably lame dad jokes brought us up to be the women we are today. Read on to find out what we learned from our dear old dads.

Coco Marett | @cocomarett
My dad and I didn’t always get along. He’s always had a very strong character and unwavering morals and values. When I was younger, I saw this as stubborn and old fashioned. As I’ve grown older, ironically, it’s these traits that I love and respect so much about him. His strength as a father, as a husband, as a veteran, inspire me endlessly. He has a heart of pure gold and there is nothing he would not do for the people he loves and cares about. He’s always wanted nothing but the best for me and my brothers - from a young age, he made sure we traveled to experience as much of the world as possible, and he’s always encouraged us to read and listen to music and appreciate art - he used to take us to jazz bars when we were kids, I remember sitting on his lap and asking if we could request Disney songs from the live band, lol. But I digress. It’s a cliché, but my dad really has shaped me into who I am today - even when I didn’t realize it at times.

Nicole Fung | @nic0lefung 
My dad is the disciplinarian in our family. He’s demanding, outspoken, brutally honest, and polarizing. People either love him or loathe him. Either way, he could care less about what people think. He knows who he is and he doesn’t apologize for it. He’s confident and dominates every situation that he’s in. Growing up, I was always afraid of my dad, but now I strive to be more fearless like him every day.

Gillian Wong | @msgillwong
When I was growing up, my dad was never around and I was unable to get to know him. He always lived alone in Hong Kong while I was living in Toronto with the rest of our family. It was only in the last six years living with him that I began to get closer with my dad. I learned that he sacrificed to let my family live comfortably while he worked and lived alone. I thank my dad for his sacrifices.

Fiona Dempsey | @fiona_dempseyy
I honestly don’t know where to begin. The older I get and the more I look back on my childhood, I get more and more thankful for how blessed I am to have the dad that I do. I have such a vivid memory of going to watch my dad play Rugby when I was about 8 years old, watching him run, tackle and bash into guys for over an hour and I remember thinking, “He’s the strongest man in the world.” Now that I’m older I realize the flawed logic in that thought, but the sentiment remains. My dad is the strongest person I know, yet he is also the most thoughtful, kind, and generous person. He’s taught me that if someone needs help, you roll up your sleeves and you help them. When you think you’ve done enough, do a little bit more. And that no matter how hard something may seem, if you just apply yourself and give it everything you’ve got, you can achieve it.

Lindsay Jang | @lindsayjang
My dad raised me to be strong, generous, inclusive and ambitious. As a child and teenager, I didn’t see the true value in all of his character traits, it’s only as an adult that I grow more and more appreciative and understanding of how smart and selfless he was (and is).

Monica Kran | @monicasauce
My parents split up before I turned one and still, I wouldn’t say I have daddy issues. It was hard to get to know my dad, he was always in a rush and didn't see the importance of spending quality time. It wasn't until high school, when my dad bought me my first pair of boxing gloves and taught me how to defend myself. My pops also taught me to always be early. Because, "if you’re early, you’re on time and if you’re on time, you’re late." This is probably the best advice I’ve ever gotten from him. He shows tough love, but the fact that he reminds me from time to time to take it slow, shows me he's not in a hurry in our relationship and that he cares.

Jana K. Hoffman | @janaisajournalist
Oddly enough, my dad is a master packer. No joke! When he was a young dude, he used to work for FedEx and pack airplanes with boxes and now he’s the most efficient packer of bags and vehicles and moving trucks you’ll ever meet. Thanks to him, I’m a masterette packer to the point where people will comment on my skills. I owe it all to him! He also taught me how to be on time because, also no joke, he’d threaten to leave me and my sister behind if we weren’t in the car at 7:30 a.m. sharp (or whatever time it was) for school. Needless to say, I was pretty happy when I finally learned how to drive and got my own car. Of course, he’s taught me so many other things like reliability and money management (still working on it) and that family is so incredibly important.

Serina Guerrero | @ser1naguerrero
My dad without a doubt is the most caring, selfless, and understanding (yet impatient) man I’ve ever met. I am literally the girl version of him. We hold very similar interests and our personalities match to a T. I know I get my sense of humor (and sarcasm) from him. There are numerous lessons my dad has taught me throughout my 20 years of living; like being self sufficient and hardworking. But if there is one lesson I’ve taken to heart most, it's to never give up. Although we may never know what life will throw at us, we just have to keep rolling with the punches, because “Guerrero’s never give up.”

Kristen McCloud | @kriscloud
Aside from being the world’s most stereotypical dad - he coached my soccer teams, asks me why I pay money for ripped jeans, and randomly has infinite knowledge about plumbing and cars - my dad has a huge sense of humor. Of course he’s taught me how to be self sufficient and hardworking, but I think the way he’s taught me not to take life, or myself, too seriously is just as valuable. The older I get the more important I realize having a good sense of humor is, and I don’t think I’d have one without him.

Heejung Kim | @heejungkimm
My dad is the jack of all trades. Even though he has his professional life during the day, he comes back home to do things he’s always wanted to do on the side: building cars, designing furniture, creating drones. He's always using his hands and I think I get that little bit of creativity from him. Through this, he has taught me to never settle for less - live doing what you’re passionate about, and wherever and whatever you’re doing now, its never too late to restart.

Zenna Wilberg | @pbr.mami
Oh man, where do I start? My dad and I are crazy similar, and I think a lot of my "quirkier" characteristics are the result of his influence. We love old school movies, smart*ss jokes, and have an insatiable interest in other cultures. He’s a social studies teacher, and actually taught at my high school while I attended, which obviously could have been super awkward but everyone loved him- he’s funny, interesting, and pretty cool, too. So it goes without saying I’ve learned a ton from him (I’ve been hearing random historical facts every day for the past 22 years, lol), but I think the biggest thing I've learned is that nothing gets solved by freaking out about it. Staying calm and thinking rationally definitely prevails, and that’s something I really admire and strive to emulate.

Daisy Pyo | @pyodaisy
There’s no one that inspires me like my pops. My dad is a warrior. The fact that he came from nothing to starting his own successful businesses after immigrating to the States with nothing but 50 bucks in his pocket is what drives me to work hard. I still don’t get how he does it all while getting so little sleep and no vacation days, but the dude can really do it all. He always told me he never expects me to be the best, but he does always expect me to try my best no matter what. I’m so blessed to have a dad who is so supportive of everything I do.

Mia Guevarra | @miagvarra
My dad is the dad who never ages and continues to stay hip by constantly listening to the Top 40 hits, but if there is anything that my dad has taught me, it's to always be curious and inventive. Whenever something was broken, he would find a way to fix it. Some like to call him MacGyver because he never leaves the house without his pocket knife. He has taught me what it means to be young at heart and how to enjoy the simple things in life.

Jordana Terk | @jordanasarahterk
My dad used to be your typical "scary dad" - he’s softened with age. When I brought guy friends over he wouldn’t really say hello back to them, he would just give them a glare. Despite the tough appearances, he’s always been kind and supportive towards me. Somehow he always had this innate trust that I was doing just fine (even when I chose to pursue a fine arts degree). In this sense, he’s taught me to be independent, to listen to that inner voice as opposed to doing what you’re supposed to do. To be entrepreneurial and to pursue whatever it is that makes me happy.

Bodeline | @bodeline.d
My father is actually my twin (and sometimes my child). We share the same love for adventure and not taking things too seriously. We’re also both really hilarious, nice, and loving (but can “turn up” if need be). If there is one thing my father has taught me, it's that life is short - too short - to be angry or stressed about things that will eventually mean nothing, and life is too short to not do every and anything that you want to do! My dad instilled in me independence, curiosity, and the idea that whatever is meant for me will always be meant for me, so long as I keep striving for it.

Sheila Deiz | @sheeels_
My dad is definitely the quiet but intimidating and also goofy kind of guy. Many people say that I’ve got his personality, which I’ve come to agree with after some time (except for the intimidating part). Funny and true story, he hung out with some gangsters and was super bad growing up — getting into fights at bars, drugs, etc. But the best part is that once he met my mom and had me, he stepped up and changed his life drastically. I definitely believe my dad has been through it all and I admire him so much. My dad has taught me many things, but the most important thing would have to be to not take life too seriously and to laugh any chance you get. He’s shown me that life can throw so many curve balls your way, but you just gotta keep going. Given what he’s been through, I’ll take his advice anytime. He has also taught me that music is the best way to escape when you’re going through things. Thanks, dad.